What word first comes to mind when you think of being insecure? For me it is fear. Irrational fear. Fear of what might happen. Fear of the future. Fear of what cannot be controlled. Dig deeper. What do you see? People try to overcome their fears by compensating, or overcompensating. Afraid of being bullied, so you become a bully? Fear of being blamed, so you blame others first? Can't accept responsibility for your actions? Fear of failure, so you take the credit for what everyone else does? What seems like arrogance and selfishness on the outside may actually be crippling insecurity on the inside. I grew up in a family that suffers from insecurity. At times it is crippling, life-altering, irrational fear. Some members of the family constantly play 'What If?' Just like Chicken Little, for some people the sky is always falling. There is one person in my life who is so deathly afraid of not being good enough, that she has scratched and clawed her way over the top of me for as long as I can remember. In this person's mind, I am the expendable one. Her fears are far greater than my feelings so that justifies it all. In her mind it is acceptable and she sees no problems at all. This is what happens when we try to take control. This is what happens when we put ourselves first. When we wrestle with God and tell Him that we can do it all. But this is not how God meant for things to be. Matthew 6:25-34 [Full Chapter] [ Do Not Worry ] “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? ... There will always be things to worry about in this life. Things will never go our way all the time. But if we can learn to let that worry (fear) go, and let God be God, then life can be a lot more peaceful. Until next time: Peace to you and yours, Have this blog delivered right to your Kindle! http://www.amazon.com/Jesus-is-my-Life-Coach/dp/B00K11MI58/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1417217979&sr=8-3&keywords=loretta+Sinclair+blogs Tweet me @LorettaLea #jclc #Sinclair #JesusChristLifeCoach #JesusIsMyLifeCoach Re-Inventing the Impossible ~Lori Loretta Sinclair Sinclair Publishing http://www.SinclairInkSpot.com http://www.SinclairInkSpot.com/Jesus-is-my-life-coach Jesus is my Life Coach! http://www.sinclairinkspot.com/jesus-is-my-life-coach If no one sees it, then it's not real. Right? Which face do you hide behind? Does the world have to see you as perfect, or your life will fall apart? What are you hiding from the world? I was a chubby kid. I still struggle with my weight. When I was growing up, the knowledge of the day was to cover up anything that was unflattering. Many-a chubby kid wore tent dresses, long pants in the hot summer, and long sleeves to cover up flabby arms. If you cover it up, then it wasn't a problem. The problem was that covering it up made it more noticeable. It made things worse. I'm not blaming anyone. People were just doing what they felt was right. But, in the end, it wasn't. How else do we do that today? It seems impossible for some people to admit that they made a mistake. Why acknowledge it when you can simply pretend that it never happened? I didn't know! I wasn't paying attention. Yes, I knew it was happening, but I just chose not to do anything about it. I was just trying to help. It wasn't my fault. That's the bottom line. It wasn't my fault. No one wants to accept responsibility for the hurt that they have directly caused others. If you are hurting, then you must be dysfunctional. You are the problem. Others should be allowed to do anything they want to, and if it hurts you, then you are the problem. It's not their fault. This is not what Christ teaches. Not even close. You cannot be forgiven for your sins unless you acknowledge them. Yes, Lord. I made a mistake. It was my fault and I am sorry. I didn't mean to, but I did. Christ has already taken the punishment for all of our sins. He has born the pain to set us all free. All we need to do is admit our faults. Whatever the source of the sin: not strong enough to stand up to others, severe insecurity, arrogance, selfishness, or something deeper. Reach down inside and do the right thing. Take hold of that sin that has been holding you for so long, and get rid of it. Admit it to God and throw it out the window. Get rid of it before it gets a hold on you again. As long as you hold it inside, there is a chance that it can take over once again. On top of all that, if forgiveness isn't enough, you will earn the respect and love of the people that you have hurt. They will see you in a whole new light. They will see the 'true you' rather than the image that you portray to everyone else. Don't be a "perfect shell" of a human being that is too afraid to admit faults. And don't blame your faults and insecurities on others. Stand up. Take responsibility. Be the bigger person and show others that you struggle with being human too. Others will respect you even more for it. Until next time: Peace to you and yours, Have this blog delivered right to your Kindle! Tweet me @LorettaLea #jclc #Sinclair #JesusChristLifeCoach #JesusIsMyLifeCoach Re-Inventing the Impossible ~Lori Loretta Sinclair Sinclair Publishing http://www.SinclairInkSpot.com On my father's 18th birthday he got $20 and a new pair of shoes from his parents. That meant he was now on his own and had to leave the family home. Right after I graduated high school, I dated a man who's parents told their children when they had to move out. They did so by turning your dinner plate upside down. That meant you could have dinner that night, but from then on you had to be an invited guest to have a place set. His plate was turned over before he graduated high school. Have you ever been thrown into a situation you were not prepared for? Something that was frustrating, or even frightening? When have you had to step up and do something you weren't ready for? Job layoff? Death of a spouse or a child? Afraid to be alone? Bankruptcy? Car accident? Health problems? Cancer? Perhaps you are facing your own mortality. The fact is, this happens all the time in life. People and circumstances are often thrown at us with little or no notice of what will come next. This can be a trying time for many. But God said, "I will never leave you. I sill never forsake you." No matter what happens in this life, we can count on the promises of God. This is undeniable, and unmovable. God said it. I believe it. That settles it. This phrase was very popular a few years ago. While it may have rubbed some people the wrong way, it is a solid truth. He has promised to be there and to take care of His people. Sometimes we have to open our hearts and minds to see it, but it is always there. So the next time you find yourself in some trying circumstances, just remember, God will never hand you a $20 bill and a new pair of shoes, and send you out into the world all by yourself. He is walking with you all the way. We are not alone. Until next time: Peace to you and yours, Have this blog delivered right to your Kindle! http://www.amazon.com/Jesus-is-my-Life-Coach/dp/B00K11MI58/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1417217979&sr=8-3&keywords=loretta+Sinclair+blogs Tweet me @LorettaLea #jclc #Sinclair #JesusChristLifeCoach #JesusIsMyLifeCoach Re-Inventing the Impossible ~Lori Loretta Sinclair Sinclair Publishing http://www.SinclairInkSpot.com http://www.SinclairInkSpot.com/Jesus-is-my-life-coach Jesus is my Life Coach! http://www.sinclairinkspot.com/jesus-is-my-life-coach |
For even the birds of the air fear not, for their Father in Heaven cares for them. How much more precious are you?
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