If I can control my job, then I can be successful.
If I can control my parents, then they will love me more.
If I can get married and have a baby, then I will be happy.
If I can control my friends then I can prove to them that I can be as good as they are.
If I can just control...
Control, control, control.
Control is the symptom. The problem is fear. Fear of not being good enough. Fear of not having enough. Not being pretty enough, successful enough, loved enough...
The list can go on and on... and believe me it does. This kind of life-altering, crippling insecurity runs in my family. I see it first hand every day. I feel the effects of it, and see the damage it spews on lives. Because the person with the insecurity has to take all of that control out on somebody, and it's usually the ones right around them.
You always hurt the ones you love. Not sure who said that, but no truer words were ever spoken. So what do we do? We have those that are hurting, and those having that hurt being taken out on them. What is the answer?
Just the thought that you are not good enough, rich enough, pretty enough... is an insult and slap in the face to God. He created you just as you are. You are uniquely you, and you are here for a purpose. He didn't make a broken down piece of junk. That's the world's view being imposed on you. It is a false vision of who you are. It is a distortion from what the truth is.
In fact, you were so uniquely designed, that Jesus gave His life for you to have the chance to live out your God-given purpose in this life. Ask yourself this? Would a man, who is not only the Son of God, but also part of God Himself, go through all of the horrific torture and death for a broken and useless reason? Jesus didn't die for nothing. He didn't willingly go to the cross for junk. Think for one minute about His reasons for going to the cross. He went for you, just as you are. And by doing so, He came to meet you where you are. He allowed Himself, as God, to become the broken person that you believe you are, so that He could lift you up out of this well of despair and walk with you back to a life living for Him. He is our reason for loving ourselves and loving life.
Maybe you haven't found your purpose in life yet. That is very different not having one. And this is a good place to start. What are you passionate about? What wrongs in this world can you fix. Let's all start in our own homes. Stop trying to replace God's purpose for your life with what you want. They are often two different things. We must learn to be happy being who and what we are, both on the inside and the outside. Begin this day, and every day by saying:
I am no accident
I am not broken junk
I was created for a purpose
I will not let the world's vision of me affect my life any longer
I will do what God wants me to do
If we can control our own fears by embracing the truth, then the opportunities of this world await at your doorstep.
This is your first step. Surround yourself with friends and family that will support you in this. If you don't have any that come to mind, go to your local Bible-based church.
Until next time:
Peace to you and yours,
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