Because I gotta tell ya, when someone hurts you, deliberately, repeatedly, some real ugly feelings start growing inside of you. Feelings that are almost impossible to suppress. And then the questions come.
How can they be so stupid?
How can they hurt me like this? That was on purpose.
Or my favorite - Get over it.
Get over it is nothing more than dismissal of your feelings. Yes, I know I hurt you, and I don't care. You don't matter. I'm more important than you are anyway.
But you do matter. You matter so much that one man gave His life so that you can live.
The Bible tells us to forgive. I have learned that this is not a one-time thing. To heal those deep hurts, the feelings that we just can't let go of - the ones that morph into hatred without us even realizing it, it takes a lot more.
Make a list - yes, I have a list. Keep it with you. Every single time that a negative feeling creeps back into your thoughts, forgive them again. And again. And again. Do it until the hurts are no longer a part of your daily routine. Do it over and over again. Do it until it hurts. Say it out loud. Give that person to God and let Him deal with their faults the same way He has dealt with yours - in love. Tough love maybe, but still love.
Only when you can let go completely can you truly heal.
Remember, this isn't for them. Most people will never admit what they have done, or acknowledge the hurt they have caused you. This is for you, and is between you and God. Do it for Him and Him alone.
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